In this pandemic, we are in this together, despite our different opinions about how to react and our competing ideas about how to keep people safe. We have conflict, but we need not be enemies. … More What Marathon Runners Taught Me About Surviving The Pandemic
You might have been expecting Part 2 of the series on the Shadowy Side of Smartphones. As I’ve been writing it this past two weeks, I discovered there’s an enormous amount to be said, and I’m not sure a series of blog posts can do it justice. Maybe it’s a book I need to write? … More Can a Vacation Save Your Life?
I’ve said some rather unhelpful things in my work as a therapist over the years. After fourteen years on the job, you’d think I’d know better. Actually, I often do understand that I shouldn’t say certain things to people who are suffering, but I manage to hear them coming out of my mouth regardless. Such … More Why do we say hurtful things to people who are suffering?
What seems clearest to me in recent weeks is that telling the story (or perhaps yelling the story) of climate change and the peril of our planet is not producing the needed results. And by that I mean, it’s not just convincing the aggressive deniers like Donald Trump, it’s also failing to change in deeply meaningful ways, ordinary folk like you and I who drag our recycling bins to the curb each week but still have an awfully large carbon footprint. … More Why Hurricanes Don’t Change People’s Minds
Your exhaustion is not the enemy. Being tired is not a failure on your part. Fatigue, in spite of the fact that your “to-do” list got longer rather than shorter today, is not proof of your insufficiency. It may sound a little crazy, but exhaustion can be a really good thing. … More Your Exhaustion Is Not The Enemy
Once upon a time there was a smug graduate student in psychology who decided to rid himself of the word “lazy”. Not by refraining from being lazy mind you, just by getting rid of the word. If it was 1985 and we still were using paper dictionaries, I would have cut that page out. At … More Mis-using “Lazy”
Not long ago I was sitting on my porch and saw my neighbour drive off with a cup of coffee on his roof. It was actually surprising how far he made it before it slid off and hit the road. Watching it slide around and knowing what was coming pulled something from deep within me. … More Glass Vase on the Roof Rack
Last week I paid money to be locked in a dark room with my wife and two other friends while strangers watched us on video displays as we tried to find a way to get ourselves out. This is what we do for fun in 2016. For those you unfamiliar with “Escape rooms” as a … More Not So Fast Mr. Fix-it!
Alright. So I took one for the team and went to see the Trolls movie with my 6 year-old. I was expecting nauseating unredeemable slush, but instead I learned this: You don’t have to eat a troll to be happy. Or, in everyday language: happiness is not something you acquire by consuming, rather we learn … More You Don’t Have to Eat a Troll to be Happy
I can hardly wait till the US election is over and we can hear about something else in the news other Donald and Hillary. Maybe we’ve all been enjoying the perverse pleasure of a reality-tv show styled campaign as a kind of distraction from the horrors we might otherwise have headlining our news. There is … More Seeing Goodness is Hard Work