Once upon a time there was a smug graduate student in psychology who decided to rid himself of the word “lazy”. Not by refraining from being lazy mind you, just by getting rid of the word. If it was 1985 and we still were using paper dictionaries, I would have cut that page out. At … More Mis-using “Lazy”
An unintended side effect of the rise of preventative medicine, is that we now view ourselves as being in control of our health. Which is at best a half-truth. … More Are you to blame for your illness?
Not long ago I was sitting on my porch and saw my neighbour drive off with a cup of coffee on his roof. It was actually surprising how far he made it before it slid off and hit the road. Watching it slide around and knowing what was coming pulled something from deep within me. … More Glass Vase on the Roof Rack
Hatred corrodes the container it is carried in – Ancient Proverb I hated reading Curious George books to my kids when they were younger. Oddly enough I found myself humming the theme song from the TV show the other day when I was buttering toast…which is a tribute to how utterly strange the cerebral cortex … More Why hate the monkey?
Welcome anger when it arrives. It can be a most helpful visitor. You may even give it safe harbour in your life for a time. Perhaps a season. Let anger instruct you a little. It might tell you about those disappointments and hurts you’ve overlooked for too long. It might remind you of what’s really … More Visits with Anger
The Other PTSD is: President Trump Stress Disorder…what do we do when a bully’s in charge? … More The Other PTSD
We interrupt this merry holiday season for brief message about sadness…(because some of us don’t always feel like celebrating this time of year) … More Hello Darkness My Old Friend
Last week I paid money to be locked in a dark room with my wife and two other friends while strangers watched us on video displays as we tried to find a way to get ourselves out. This is what we do for fun in 2016. For those you unfamiliar with “Escape rooms” as a … More Not So Fast Mr. Fix-it!
Alright. So I took one for the team and went to see the Trolls movie with my 6 year-old. I was expecting nauseating unredeemable slush, but instead I learned this: You don’t have to eat a troll to be happy. Or, in everyday language: happiness is not something you acquire by consuming, rather we learn … More You Don’t Have to Eat a Troll to be Happy
My own ingratitude “haunts” me on this, the most haunted night of the year. Perhaps these visitors who raise my ire are mere apparitions of my own greed and entitlement. It challenges me to rethink my approach. What if I saw each home that hands out candy as an expression of generosity rather than owing me quality goodies? What if I recognized that everything in my life is gift from a generous universe that owes me nothing, but provides “treats” nonetheless? … More Tantrums in the World of Trick-or-Treat